Being Patient When Trying To Get Your Girlfriend Back

Publié par Unknown on vendredi 3 janvier 2014

By Pauline Stephenson


Whether you've just gone through a breakup and you want to get your ex back or you want to move on, often overcoming the pain can be a seemingly impossible task. You think about your ex all the time. Every morning you relive the pain and emotions of being alone. There's anger, sorrow, depression and a feeling of worthlessness that goes along with each and every breakup no matter what the circumstances might have been.

You worry that she's going to get used to living her life without you. But even more, you just worry that the window of opportunity is closing so you're frantic to find a solution to your problem and get her back as soon as possible.

It's natural to be a little anxious about getting your girlfriend back. It's natural to get upset, nervous, suspicious and jealous. It's natural to doubt that she'll ever give you that second chance but the fact is that these emotions can cause us to do drastic things that can kill our chances of winning back the woman that we love. Our impatient nature can cause us to do stupid things that actually make matters worse rather than better.

Understand that the breakup doesn't rest entirely upon your shoulders. While it might be easy to take the brunt of the blame on yourself since you are responsible for your own actions, both you and your ex are to blame for this breakup. Placing blame isn't really important though. What is important is that you learn from the past and move on towards your future.

If she needs your help or wants to enjoy your company, she will call you. In a healthy relationship there is equal give and take. Gifts given now will only make her angry thinking about how you didn't give her gifts when you were together. Thoughtful phone calls to check on her will remind her of the times that you neglected her. Telling her that you love her will be too little too late and having to hear that awkward silence isn't going to help your male ego at all.

On the other hand, be on the lookout for requests for help when she does begin to feel something for you again. Often a woman won't come right out and say that she misses you or that she is thinking about you after a breakup. She might find a lame excuse to call you for advice or ask for your help with something. Don't allow yourself to be used, of course, but look for these openings as a sign that she is beginning to miss you.

You have to treat yourself well and start doing things that are going to make you happy. This might mean something as simple as watching a movie that makes you smile and improves your mood even when you don't want to or treating yourself to a little shopping therapy. A quick trip to the store to buy yourself a present can prove to yourself that you love yourself. Before you laugh or think that this is ridiculous, give it a try.

It certainly is possible to win her back by hitting her emotional hot buttons. It's might not be easy for you but it is rather simple. Like many things in life, it's only when we really care that things get difficult. If you didn't care about her and love her then it would be a piece of cake to win her over. Your heart is involved though. You want things to work out so it's important that you have a well laid out plan that is bomb proof and effective.




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