Knowing the process in a marriage lets you understand the spot where you along with your partner are near, so it helps explain what could appear to be puzzling behaviors. They make a road map towards a healthy relationship. It does not matter how long you've been in a relationship; most of them fit in these six stages:
"OMG, where did you come from? You are perfection!" stage
During this initial stage each partner are hoping to get along and please one another; you both are trying to make things work out. At that stage, neither of you will have seen your respective bad sides since you'll have both showed only your best sides. This is the place where we usually are in love, and see only the best qualities of the partner.
Perturbation stage
During this stage you each start noticing the differences between the two of you. Conflicts start arising however they are easily solved fast most of the time. At this stage we see things a lot more clear as we taking off our "pink" sunglasses. Through this stage, the partners either deal with this or find you breaking apart.
Molding stage
Both partners accept and appreciate each other's weaknesses; they avoid using of force and give up the mentality of love without struggle. This stage is all about the balance of "to give" and "to get".
The happy stage
If your relationship survives the previous stage, both partners relax their boundaries and realize that they'll never alter the other person completely. They start appreciate each other more giving mutual respect and deeper love feelings.
The surrender stage
Couples surrender to reality and start to believe that their relationships can have some defects too, and accept that it is normal. That's usually where they learn to love the other and definitely feel connected to each other. This period of time shows that you are currently both able to commit long term to one another.
Trust stage
This is actually the last stage, and trust here becomes unconditional. Partners start working on some common projects, they feel united and turn into a true team; this become obvious to everyone around them.
Imagine that you experience some difficulties at one of these stages.
The most essential thing here is communication. Let your second half speak first without interrupting thus solve out most of your issues at the beginning. You may have to realize that you see variety of things differently. Try to find a method to fully understand this different from yours opinion rather then make an attempt to change your partner and his or her point of view.
Hope it is more clear now what point your relationship are at, and when you do I'm sure this knowledge may help you find the best partner!
"OMG, where did you come from? You are perfection!" stage
During this initial stage each partner are hoping to get along and please one another; you both are trying to make things work out. At that stage, neither of you will have seen your respective bad sides since you'll have both showed only your best sides. This is the place where we usually are in love, and see only the best qualities of the partner.
Perturbation stage
During this stage you each start noticing the differences between the two of you. Conflicts start arising however they are easily solved fast most of the time. At this stage we see things a lot more clear as we taking off our "pink" sunglasses. Through this stage, the partners either deal with this or find you breaking apart.
Molding stage
Both partners accept and appreciate each other's weaknesses; they avoid using of force and give up the mentality of love without struggle. This stage is all about the balance of "to give" and "to get".
The happy stage
If your relationship survives the previous stage, both partners relax their boundaries and realize that they'll never alter the other person completely. They start appreciate each other more giving mutual respect and deeper love feelings.
The surrender stage
Couples surrender to reality and start to believe that their relationships can have some defects too, and accept that it is normal. That's usually where they learn to love the other and definitely feel connected to each other. This period of time shows that you are currently both able to commit long term to one another.
Trust stage
This is actually the last stage, and trust here becomes unconditional. Partners start working on some common projects, they feel united and turn into a true team; this become obvious to everyone around them.
Imagine that you experience some difficulties at one of these stages.
The most essential thing here is communication. Let your second half speak first without interrupting thus solve out most of your issues at the beginning. You may have to realize that you see variety of things differently. Try to find a method to fully understand this different from yours opinion rather then make an attempt to change your partner and his or her point of view.
Hope it is more clear now what point your relationship are at, and when you do I'm sure this knowledge may help you find the best partner!
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