Getting the attention of a guy that you're interested in shouldn't require a skillfully laid out plan. Men don't need to be a mystery to you and getting the attention of any man you desire requires only a few key pieces of knowledge. It doesn't matter how handsome he is, how popular he is or even if you think that there is no way that he will be attracted to you. Once you understand how men process attraction and what will draw him in, it won't even matter if there is a model hitting on him. You will be the one talking to him at the end of the night.
The differences between men and women are stark. Trying methods or treating a man in the same manner in which you wish to be treated simply isn't going to work. While we all want to be treated well and to have someone at least act as if they're interested in us, you are hoping that you become more than just a friend to him, right? You want him to be attracted to you. You want to be the only woman that he finds attractive. You want a man devoted to you and maybe even to fall in love with you. This is the kind of attraction that you are hoping for.
First, men are visual creatures. They are attracted to things visually at first. It doesn't matter if it's a car, a woman or a coffee maker. If it turns him on visually at first then you have his attention. If you are nervous because you feel that you're not the prettiest or thinnest or most attractive woman in the room, don't worry. All it takes is one thing for him to find you attractive. One physical feature is all that is necessary to get his attention and lead him to you. You don't have to be perfect. For every man that has ever approached a woman at a bar and asked for her number, all it took was one feature to initiate that attraction.
You don't have to be perfect or be the most beautiful girl in the room. All that is required is that you have one feature that is attractive. Perhaps someone has told you that you have pretty eyes or beautiful hair. Maybe you have shapely legs or a pleasant smile. You can accentuate these features and hide any features that you feel are unattractive. For instance, if you have nice hair but you have crooked teeth, braid your hair and avoid giving a toothy smile. If you have nice legs yet you don't like your hair, a dress or skirt that shows off your legs and perhaps a fashionable hat to hide your hair while adding some flair might be in order. Remember, you only have to have one or two attractive features that will get his attention long enough for you to break the ice and make him think about you.
Flirting is huge with men. They don't know it but they are attracted to women that flirt with them. Coming right out and telling a guy that you're interested in him will make him run for the nearest fire exit yet flirting with him will make him want to get to know you better. You might say that no self respecting woman flirts with guys these days. You might feel awkward or ridiculous flirting with a man like a high school cheerleader but it works. While every other girl in the room is too embarrassed to flirt with that guy, your feminine charm will outshine those wall flowers.
Have fun and be as flirty as you can possibly be. Try giggling and being coy to start and hit him with the heavy stuff as things progress. If he smiles then you're doing it right. Toss your hair or chew on a straw and make eye contact with him. If he appears to become embarrassed then you can resort to some of the more subtle types of flirting such as letting him catch you looking his way or a shy glance from out of the corner of your eye. If he smiles or appears interested then pour it on and have fun. Touching him when you're talking is great way to flirt. Touching is one of the most overlooked aspects of flirting yet it is very powerful.
Once you have gotten his attention it is time to connect with him and make him feel something special for you and you alone. Stimulating conversation is at the top of list of desire able traits in a mate for all of us but so many women fear that they have to be highly intelligent or that they have to impress a man to make a good impression. The truth is that people love to talk about themselves. By asking good questions and going beyond what any other woman might dare to ask, you can create a bond with him that will disarm him and make him feel like he has known you all his life or that you were meant to be together. It is all a matter of being a little bold as the conversation moves along and keeping the focus on him.
While we all tend to ask the same questions when we meet someone new such as what they do for a living, where they grew up or what they enjoy doing in their spare time, these are boring questions but they don't need to be. As he begins to give you the same answers that we all give to such questions, dig deeper into who he actually is. Ask him if he always wanted the career that he is in now or if he had other plans when he was younger. This will lead to more personal answer as you uncover who he actually is as a person. You'll learn about his dreams and goals for his life as well as his likes and dislikes. Sharing such personal information will lead him to feel something special for you. He will feel that you are different and you will learn more about him than most of his closest friends know simply because you were brave enough to ask personal questions. This bond is both real as well as emotional. When we share details about our life and our dreams, we become connected to that other person in a very real way. This is the path to bonding and intimacy.
You see, attracting the man of your dreams doesn't have to be complicated or full of tricks and schemes. You can attract a guy using his instinctual attraction to things that he sees and then draw him closer using these bonding techniques. Once a man feels that kind of connection, it doesn't matter what you look like, how much money you make or even what skeletons you have hiding in your closet. He will feel drawn to you and want to spend more time with you because you make him feel important and he is attracted to you. This is basic male psychology and how you can use attraction to get any man to pay attention to you.
The differences between men and women are stark. Trying methods or treating a man in the same manner in which you wish to be treated simply isn't going to work. While we all want to be treated well and to have someone at least act as if they're interested in us, you are hoping that you become more than just a friend to him, right? You want him to be attracted to you. You want to be the only woman that he finds attractive. You want a man devoted to you and maybe even to fall in love with you. This is the kind of attraction that you are hoping for.
First, men are visual creatures. They are attracted to things visually at first. It doesn't matter if it's a car, a woman or a coffee maker. If it turns him on visually at first then you have his attention. If you are nervous because you feel that you're not the prettiest or thinnest or most attractive woman in the room, don't worry. All it takes is one thing for him to find you attractive. One physical feature is all that is necessary to get his attention and lead him to you. You don't have to be perfect. For every man that has ever approached a woman at a bar and asked for her number, all it took was one feature to initiate that attraction.
You don't have to be perfect or be the most beautiful girl in the room. All that is required is that you have one feature that is attractive. Perhaps someone has told you that you have pretty eyes or beautiful hair. Maybe you have shapely legs or a pleasant smile. You can accentuate these features and hide any features that you feel are unattractive. For instance, if you have nice hair but you have crooked teeth, braid your hair and avoid giving a toothy smile. If you have nice legs yet you don't like your hair, a dress or skirt that shows off your legs and perhaps a fashionable hat to hide your hair while adding some flair might be in order. Remember, you only have to have one or two attractive features that will get his attention long enough for you to break the ice and make him think about you.
Flirting is huge with men. They don't know it but they are attracted to women that flirt with them. Coming right out and telling a guy that you're interested in him will make him run for the nearest fire exit yet flirting with him will make him want to get to know you better. You might say that no self respecting woman flirts with guys these days. You might feel awkward or ridiculous flirting with a man like a high school cheerleader but it works. While every other girl in the room is too embarrassed to flirt with that guy, your feminine charm will outshine those wall flowers.
Have fun and be as flirty as you can possibly be. Try giggling and being coy to start and hit him with the heavy stuff as things progress. If he smiles then you're doing it right. Toss your hair or chew on a straw and make eye contact with him. If he appears to become embarrassed then you can resort to some of the more subtle types of flirting such as letting him catch you looking his way or a shy glance from out of the corner of your eye. If he smiles or appears interested then pour it on and have fun. Touching him when you're talking is great way to flirt. Touching is one of the most overlooked aspects of flirting yet it is very powerful.
Once you have gotten his attention it is time to connect with him and make him feel something special for you and you alone. Stimulating conversation is at the top of list of desire able traits in a mate for all of us but so many women fear that they have to be highly intelligent or that they have to impress a man to make a good impression. The truth is that people love to talk about themselves. By asking good questions and going beyond what any other woman might dare to ask, you can create a bond with him that will disarm him and make him feel like he has known you all his life or that you were meant to be together. It is all a matter of being a little bold as the conversation moves along and keeping the focus on him.
While we all tend to ask the same questions when we meet someone new such as what they do for a living, where they grew up or what they enjoy doing in their spare time, these are boring questions but they don't need to be. As he begins to give you the same answers that we all give to such questions, dig deeper into who he actually is. Ask him if he always wanted the career that he is in now or if he had other plans when he was younger. This will lead to more personal answer as you uncover who he actually is as a person. You'll learn about his dreams and goals for his life as well as his likes and dislikes. Sharing such personal information will lead him to feel something special for you. He will feel that you are different and you will learn more about him than most of his closest friends know simply because you were brave enough to ask personal questions. This bond is both real as well as emotional. When we share details about our life and our dreams, we become connected to that other person in a very real way. This is the path to bonding and intimacy.
You see, attracting the man of your dreams doesn't have to be complicated or full of tricks and schemes. You can attract a guy using his instinctual attraction to things that he sees and then draw him closer using these bonding techniques. Once a man feels that kind of connection, it doesn't matter what you look like, how much money you make or even what skeletons you have hiding in your closet. He will feel drawn to you and want to spend more time with you because you make him feel important and he is attracted to you. This is basic male psychology and how you can use attraction to get any man to pay attention to you.
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