In a moment of inspiration, have you thought of a great idea for getting back together with your ex? You have thought long and hard and you know exactly what you need to do to win your ex back. It all makes sense to you. You have the perfect plan and you can see it all unfolding before you. Before you follow through with this plan, understand that most of us come to the same conclusion and think of the same solutions for how to get back together with our ex after a breakup. Chances are that you're not as clever and unique as you might think.
If any of these plans sound familiar then you are perfectly normal. This doesn't mean that any of these methods will help you to find success in getting back together with the one you love but there is hope. We all have to go through stages after a breakup. The stage that you are in presently was visited by many. We all come out the other side of this process better, stronger and, if we are wise, we are able to get back together with the one we love. We all get that opportunity. It's simply a matter of when and what you wish to do with that opportunity.
The most popular plan that most of us come up with in our mind after a breakup is the thought that we should talk to our ex. If we could only sit down and talk through all the problems in the relationship then everything would be find. If there is a problem then there is a solution, right? Talking through your problems is also what therapy is all about and this is what the professional suggest so this must be the way to reuniting with your ex.
The only issue that you might run into with this plan is that your ex has no interest in getting back together. They ended the relationship. That is how they resolved the conflict. They just gave up and decided to move on. Without a desire to be with you or an emotional tie to you and your relationship, talking will only make matters worse. Your ex may agree to meet with you and discuss when went wrong in your relationship but their goal will only be to make you see that the relationship is over. They might feel guilty for leaving you and allow you to speak your mind but you're never going to be able to convince your ex to fall in love with you again. Logic has no place in matters of the heart.
Promising to change is often the next plan that many of us come up with when hoping to get our ex back. We feel that if we either promise to change or begin to make changes in our life that our ex will have no reason to end the relationship. You might think that if you write down a list of all the reasons why your ex said that they were leaving and then make all the necessary changes that everything will be good again.
The problem with promising to change or making changes in your life is that, again, your ex doesn't care. Your ex left. They are done. They might be glad that you are solving these problems in your life or making changes in your life but right now trying to convince your ex to come back is useless. Also, talking about changing and actually making these changes over a long period of time are two different things. Don't simply talk about change. Make it happen. Don't promise to change things unless you can successfully see these changes through to the end. Your ex is very well aware of the fact that you want to get back together and that you're probably willing to do just about anything to make that happen.
Finally, you might come to the conclusion that if you were simply perfect then your ex wouldn't be able to help themselves and they would be moved to take you back. By simply being perfect in every way, you could charm the socks off of your ex and everybody would agree that you were the perfect match for them. You would write wonderful poetry or send them gifts as a way of apologizing for the past. You would show them how much you love them and your ex would be so moved by your display of devotion that you would break down that wall standing between the two of you and you'd live happily ever after.
This tactic is often even more desperate than many of the others. The only thing that you will probably accomplish is to push your ex further away from you. Your ex will lose more respect for you and if you push the issue, there's a good chance that your ex could file a restraining order against you. Giving your attention and affections to someone that isn't worthy of receiving your love right now is unhealthy. Once your ex is attracted to you again then you can show your love and devotion again. Until that time, being overly nice to your ex after they broke your heart is a sign of weakness.
The true key to your success in getting your ex back is to have them fall in love with you again. You ex needs to miss having you in their life. They need to remember what it was like to be in love with the person they first met. Your ex needs to fall in love with you all over again. That love needs be born anew. No amount of talking, gift giving or change on your part is going to make your ex fall in love with you again. It will happen all on its own. That love is still there. It is simply buried under a lot of resentment, frustration and fear.
Allow some time to pass and let your ex find out what life is like without you in it. Let your ex's attitude towards you change as the days pass and time does its healing work. Soon the bad things will be forgotten and only the pleasant memories will remain. You will get that second chance that you have been hoping for but it's not going to come because of any amount of talking, changing or emotional bribery on your part. Be patient with your ex. You will find that your ex will suddenly have a change of heart one day and your opportunity to get back together will present itself all on its own. If you truly love your ex then you will give them the space that they need to work through their feelings while loving them from afar.
If any of these plans sound familiar then you are perfectly normal. This doesn't mean that any of these methods will help you to find success in getting back together with the one you love but there is hope. We all have to go through stages after a breakup. The stage that you are in presently was visited by many. We all come out the other side of this process better, stronger and, if we are wise, we are able to get back together with the one we love. We all get that opportunity. It's simply a matter of when and what you wish to do with that opportunity.
The most popular plan that most of us come up with in our mind after a breakup is the thought that we should talk to our ex. If we could only sit down and talk through all the problems in the relationship then everything would be find. If there is a problem then there is a solution, right? Talking through your problems is also what therapy is all about and this is what the professional suggest so this must be the way to reuniting with your ex.
The only issue that you might run into with this plan is that your ex has no interest in getting back together. They ended the relationship. That is how they resolved the conflict. They just gave up and decided to move on. Without a desire to be with you or an emotional tie to you and your relationship, talking will only make matters worse. Your ex may agree to meet with you and discuss when went wrong in your relationship but their goal will only be to make you see that the relationship is over. They might feel guilty for leaving you and allow you to speak your mind but you're never going to be able to convince your ex to fall in love with you again. Logic has no place in matters of the heart.
Promising to change is often the next plan that many of us come up with when hoping to get our ex back. We feel that if we either promise to change or begin to make changes in our life that our ex will have no reason to end the relationship. You might think that if you write down a list of all the reasons why your ex said that they were leaving and then make all the necessary changes that everything will be good again.
The problem with promising to change or making changes in your life is that, again, your ex doesn't care. Your ex left. They are done. They might be glad that you are solving these problems in your life or making changes in your life but right now trying to convince your ex to come back is useless. Also, talking about changing and actually making these changes over a long period of time are two different things. Don't simply talk about change. Make it happen. Don't promise to change things unless you can successfully see these changes through to the end. Your ex is very well aware of the fact that you want to get back together and that you're probably willing to do just about anything to make that happen.
Finally, you might come to the conclusion that if you were simply perfect then your ex wouldn't be able to help themselves and they would be moved to take you back. By simply being perfect in every way, you could charm the socks off of your ex and everybody would agree that you were the perfect match for them. You would write wonderful poetry or send them gifts as a way of apologizing for the past. You would show them how much you love them and your ex would be so moved by your display of devotion that you would break down that wall standing between the two of you and you'd live happily ever after.
This tactic is often even more desperate than many of the others. The only thing that you will probably accomplish is to push your ex further away from you. Your ex will lose more respect for you and if you push the issue, there's a good chance that your ex could file a restraining order against you. Giving your attention and affections to someone that isn't worthy of receiving your love right now is unhealthy. Once your ex is attracted to you again then you can show your love and devotion again. Until that time, being overly nice to your ex after they broke your heart is a sign of weakness.
The true key to your success in getting your ex back is to have them fall in love with you again. You ex needs to miss having you in their life. They need to remember what it was like to be in love with the person they first met. Your ex needs to fall in love with you all over again. That love needs be born anew. No amount of talking, gift giving or change on your part is going to make your ex fall in love with you again. It will happen all on its own. That love is still there. It is simply buried under a lot of resentment, frustration and fear.
Allow some time to pass and let your ex find out what life is like without you in it. Let your ex's attitude towards you change as the days pass and time does its healing work. Soon the bad things will be forgotten and only the pleasant memories will remain. You will get that second chance that you have been hoping for but it's not going to come because of any amount of talking, changing or emotional bribery on your part. Be patient with your ex. You will find that your ex will suddenly have a change of heart one day and your opportunity to get back together will present itself all on its own. If you truly love your ex then you will give them the space that they need to work through their feelings while loving them from afar.
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