Feeling weak as a man after a breakup can be a common feeling. Not many of us guys have come through a breakup without shedding a few tears and the emotions involved with having someone you love reject you can be devastating. The frustration that comes along with knowing that you could make things right if your girlfriend or wife would just listen to you can add to your pain. If you had a choice, you would probably choose some sort of physical pain over this emotional pain. In such a case, you would know how long the healing process would take and you could plan accordingly. In the case of emotional pain, you have no idea if it will ever end or it feels this way at the moment.
Now, it doesn't matter if we're talking about your wife or your girlfriend. The pain from a breakup and the way that women behave in either relationship is exactly the same. A piece of paper and sworn oaths have been proven in today's society to carry as much weight as the paper they're written on. The process of getting from being broken up to getting back together are also the same. The process or stages that we're going to talk about will bring you to the point where you will have that opportunity to rebuild your relationship and it is based upon military principles. If these principles can get a combat veteran through a difficult time emotionally then they can bring you through your pain as well.
First, you are going to process your emotions and in a very matter of fact manner you're going to run through everything that happened. This is called a debriefing. You can be upset all you want beforehand but as soon as you have time you are going to sit yourself down and in a factual manner, recount what happened in the past. You're going to discuss what you did wrong, what you would have done differently as well as what your ex did to you. You're going to put it all in the past and learn from your mistakes.
Learning from the past is the only purpose it serves. Feeling bad about yourself or what you did will only continue to hobble your attempts to win your girlfriend back. It serves no useful purpose. You need to let go of the past and learn from your mistakes. Consider yourself lucky that you had this experience to learn from. Once you have successfully debriefed you should feel free from guilt, doubt, pain and torment. You will be moving forward with a clean slate and you will be able to focus on the future again.
The next step involves get some rest and relaxation. Just like combat veterans who have seen battle, you need a little bit of time to blow off some steam and live life a little. You have seen your share of hell, you have put it behind you and now it's time to remember what life is all about. You have survived and you will get that second chance with the woman you love. Be happy about that and celebrate. Today is the first day of your new life and it's up to you to decide what direction you will head in. Begin by doing things that bring you joy or make you feel good about your life.
Be careful and try to avoid many of the antics that most soldiers go through when they're on leave. Avoid drinking too much since this often leads to text messaging or calling your ex. Alcohol is a depressant and while you might feel awesome at the beginning of the night, there's a good chance that you could become melancholy and do something crazy like call your ex to tell her how much you love her or show up at her house. During this phase you want to avoid contacting your ex. Instead, think of blowing off some steam by spending time with your friends or getting out of town for a long weekend. Go to the beach or the mountains or wherever it is that you go to recharge your batteries.
When you return, it will be time to rebuild yourself and your life. You must focus on your mental strength, your emotional strength as well as your physical body. Take advantage of this time apart from your girlfriend or wife. Take a closer look at how she behaves, acts, feels and loves. Learn a little bit about female psychology and begin to understand why women behave the way that they do when they're in a relationship. Look at this as intelligence gathering. We, as men, are logical and calculating in how we perform tasks and solve problems. Women are emotional and driven by their feelings and instincts. Once you understand this, you will be better prepared to win her back in a stealthy yet effective manner.
At this moment right now, you might still feel emotional and doubtful that she is every going to come back. That's fine. This is to be expected. You're still in an emotional state. Once you begin to feel better and you regain your self-confidence, you will understand that getting your girlfriend or wife to fall in love with you again isn't very difficult. If you are able to focus on her emotions while appearing strong and confident, she will fall in love with you again for sure. Remember that you're the man in the relationship and that she wants you to be the man. Avoid the temptation of letting your own emotions play a role in your decision making process and you will find that getting her back isn't very difficult at all.
Now, it doesn't matter if we're talking about your wife or your girlfriend. The pain from a breakup and the way that women behave in either relationship is exactly the same. A piece of paper and sworn oaths have been proven in today's society to carry as much weight as the paper they're written on. The process of getting from being broken up to getting back together are also the same. The process or stages that we're going to talk about will bring you to the point where you will have that opportunity to rebuild your relationship and it is based upon military principles. If these principles can get a combat veteran through a difficult time emotionally then they can bring you through your pain as well.
First, you are going to process your emotions and in a very matter of fact manner you're going to run through everything that happened. This is called a debriefing. You can be upset all you want beforehand but as soon as you have time you are going to sit yourself down and in a factual manner, recount what happened in the past. You're going to discuss what you did wrong, what you would have done differently as well as what your ex did to you. You're going to put it all in the past and learn from your mistakes.
Learning from the past is the only purpose it serves. Feeling bad about yourself or what you did will only continue to hobble your attempts to win your girlfriend back. It serves no useful purpose. You need to let go of the past and learn from your mistakes. Consider yourself lucky that you had this experience to learn from. Once you have successfully debriefed you should feel free from guilt, doubt, pain and torment. You will be moving forward with a clean slate and you will be able to focus on the future again.
The next step involves get some rest and relaxation. Just like combat veterans who have seen battle, you need a little bit of time to blow off some steam and live life a little. You have seen your share of hell, you have put it behind you and now it's time to remember what life is all about. You have survived and you will get that second chance with the woman you love. Be happy about that and celebrate. Today is the first day of your new life and it's up to you to decide what direction you will head in. Begin by doing things that bring you joy or make you feel good about your life.
Be careful and try to avoid many of the antics that most soldiers go through when they're on leave. Avoid drinking too much since this often leads to text messaging or calling your ex. Alcohol is a depressant and while you might feel awesome at the beginning of the night, there's a good chance that you could become melancholy and do something crazy like call your ex to tell her how much you love her or show up at her house. During this phase you want to avoid contacting your ex. Instead, think of blowing off some steam by spending time with your friends or getting out of town for a long weekend. Go to the beach or the mountains or wherever it is that you go to recharge your batteries.
When you return, it will be time to rebuild yourself and your life. You must focus on your mental strength, your emotional strength as well as your physical body. Take advantage of this time apart from your girlfriend or wife. Take a closer look at how she behaves, acts, feels and loves. Learn a little bit about female psychology and begin to understand why women behave the way that they do when they're in a relationship. Look at this as intelligence gathering. We, as men, are logical and calculating in how we perform tasks and solve problems. Women are emotional and driven by their feelings and instincts. Once you understand this, you will be better prepared to win her back in a stealthy yet effective manner.
At this moment right now, you might still feel emotional and doubtful that she is every going to come back. That's fine. This is to be expected. You're still in an emotional state. Once you begin to feel better and you regain your self-confidence, you will understand that getting your girlfriend or wife to fall in love with you again isn't very difficult. If you are able to focus on her emotions while appearing strong and confident, she will fall in love with you again for sure. Remember that you're the man in the relationship and that she wants you to be the man. Avoid the temptation of letting your own emotions play a role in your decision making process and you will find that getting her back isn't very difficult at all.
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