One of the most common questions guys ask is, "I want to know how to get a girls number?"Well, we all know there's a simple answer: You ASK for it.But what most guys are REALLY asking is: "How do I get a girls number without being afraid of rejection - or being turned down?"There are 3 secret steps for to how to get a girls number. If you follow these, you'll have NO problem in getting her number.Oh, and a little side benefit here is that you'll also avoid her Flaking out on you later on. Ever call up a number a woman gave you and get "The number you have reached...." No more of that.
Consider the fact that most females are advised early in life not to speak to strangers, specifically men, much less not to give their phone numbers to a guy they hardly know. Think about it briefly. A girl you are interested in might have experienced a stalker or bad guy in her not-too-distant past. Only after you show genuine compassion and interest towards her will the art of getting a girl's number be executed.
The easiest way to do this is just to end by STARTING to walk away."Hey, it was cool talking to you..."Then you START to turn away. This leads us to the next step.How to get a girls number - Step 2) Make it attractive for her.Just after you start to turn away, you turn BACK to her and say: "You know what? You seem pretty fun. We might want to re-connect sometime."What that technique of turning away then back does is establish that what I'm suggesting is almost an afterthought, meaning low-key. Laid back. No pressure.It also establishes that she impressed you. "You seem pretty fun!" Which puts YOU in the control seat right from the start.
When you are having a conversation with this girl, by all means give her you're full attention, engage her, spark her interest, but don't stay too long. When the conversation is still going well say something like "It's been great chatting but I better get back to my friends." But as your walking away turn back as if it's an afterthought, and say something like "Hey, do you have email?" This works like a charm, believe me! You could also ask for her email. It's not her phone phone number but you may find she offers this instead. You could also just ask if she's OK Facebook... who isn't these days?Ending the conversation while it's still engaging will do two things: raise your status in her mind and give you an excuse to catch up another time.
Be a detailed listener. Initialize eye contact, listen, absorb, react, and emote. Always be sure to give her the floor to talk, give her space to express herself. Never be the type of guy with whom she doesn't feel rapport from at all since you are not letting her participate. If she is not a talker, listen all the same for cues about her interests and how she says things with her eyes and gestures.
To lead and open up the conversation and explore for common interests, practice active listening. Run with the thread of conversation to expand on it after repeating what you hear from her. For instance, she said, "I don't really go out much, my friends begged me to come with them." Your response is, "I know how that feels, and like you, bars are not really in my top 10 of best places to be in. Me and my friends mostly hang out and have more fun at private house parties. It allows us to catch up better. What do you and your friends do most?" Then give her some space. You have just led her to continue the conversation and could let you know more about her interests.
You must be more dominant and expect success. Try the routines below and pick the one that works the best for you and use this exact sequence every time you talk to a woman and you want to get her phone number. The key here is to just act like it is completely natural and eventually it will become that way. In a very short time, it will become a habit and you will be supremely confident with it."It was great to meet you...I'll see you around" You have said your goodbyes so quickly that they will feel a temporarily feeling of loss. Just a moment ago, they were having a good time with you and now suddenly you are leaving. This will seem really unusual as most women are used to guys clinging to them. So when you do this you will differentiate yourself in a good way. Then, just as you go to walk away, turn back around and
Argue with her- This does not mean have a heated argument but keep it soft yet annoy her. Girls want guys who think out of the box and have a unique way of presenting themselves and their personality in front of them. Pick a topic and try to dominate the whole conversation. Do not agree with her at all even if she is right rather try to press your point in a cheeky manner. Once a girls starts to get a big annoyed her thoughts start to get dominated and her ego forces her to defeat you. This way she wouldn't be able to stop thinking about you.
Let her give it- Take this argument to a level where she starts to find it interesting and is looking for more and more. Make an early exit and let her know that you have other important things to do that just talk to her. Now this is the crucial part and this is where you need to work a bit as well. Some girls just wait for you to ask for their phone number therefore you should do this in a cheeky way as well. Before leaving say- I am not done yet but we can carry this on some other day. By the way do you have a phone? She might say yes.
This is a very basic question and will start to build a yes ladder. She will answer yes and you then hand her the pen and paper and tell her to write it down. You treat her yes as confirmation that she wants to give you her email. This is also an attraction test and the more she invests in you, the more she will be willing to invest in the future. As she is writing down her email address, you simply say, ""Write down your number too!".In the example above, you have broken down the giving of the number into two steps, which dramatically improves the chances. The strength of this method is that you are asking them to write their phone number down as they are writing down their email and, in doing so; you have built a very powerful compliance momentum.By asking for her email, you have given her a very small attraction test and if you have any value built at all, she will comply with you. It's very low risk and most people give out an email address without thinking about it. Asking for the phone number is much more personal, but by asking for it while they are writing down their email, your chances of success will skyrocket. Try it and you will realise how powerful this is!
Consider the fact that most females are advised early in life not to speak to strangers, specifically men, much less not to give their phone numbers to a guy they hardly know. Think about it briefly. A girl you are interested in might have experienced a stalker or bad guy in her not-too-distant past. Only after you show genuine compassion and interest towards her will the art of getting a girl's number be executed.
The easiest way to do this is just to end by STARTING to walk away."Hey, it was cool talking to you..."Then you START to turn away. This leads us to the next step.How to get a girls number - Step 2) Make it attractive for her.Just after you start to turn away, you turn BACK to her and say: "You know what? You seem pretty fun. We might want to re-connect sometime."What that technique of turning away then back does is establish that what I'm suggesting is almost an afterthought, meaning low-key. Laid back. No pressure.It also establishes that she impressed you. "You seem pretty fun!" Which puts YOU in the control seat right from the start.
When you are having a conversation with this girl, by all means give her you're full attention, engage her, spark her interest, but don't stay too long. When the conversation is still going well say something like "It's been great chatting but I better get back to my friends." But as your walking away turn back as if it's an afterthought, and say something like "Hey, do you have email?" This works like a charm, believe me! You could also ask for her email. It's not her phone phone number but you may find she offers this instead. You could also just ask if she's OK Facebook... who isn't these days?Ending the conversation while it's still engaging will do two things: raise your status in her mind and give you an excuse to catch up another time.
Be a detailed listener. Initialize eye contact, listen, absorb, react, and emote. Always be sure to give her the floor to talk, give her space to express herself. Never be the type of guy with whom she doesn't feel rapport from at all since you are not letting her participate. If she is not a talker, listen all the same for cues about her interests and how she says things with her eyes and gestures.
To lead and open up the conversation and explore for common interests, practice active listening. Run with the thread of conversation to expand on it after repeating what you hear from her. For instance, she said, "I don't really go out much, my friends begged me to come with them." Your response is, "I know how that feels, and like you, bars are not really in my top 10 of best places to be in. Me and my friends mostly hang out and have more fun at private house parties. It allows us to catch up better. What do you and your friends do most?" Then give her some space. You have just led her to continue the conversation and could let you know more about her interests.
You must be more dominant and expect success. Try the routines below and pick the one that works the best for you and use this exact sequence every time you talk to a woman and you want to get her phone number. The key here is to just act like it is completely natural and eventually it will become that way. In a very short time, it will become a habit and you will be supremely confident with it."It was great to meet you...I'll see you around" You have said your goodbyes so quickly that they will feel a temporarily feeling of loss. Just a moment ago, they were having a good time with you and now suddenly you are leaving. This will seem really unusual as most women are used to guys clinging to them. So when you do this you will differentiate yourself in a good way. Then, just as you go to walk away, turn back around and
Argue with her- This does not mean have a heated argument but keep it soft yet annoy her. Girls want guys who think out of the box and have a unique way of presenting themselves and their personality in front of them. Pick a topic and try to dominate the whole conversation. Do not agree with her at all even if she is right rather try to press your point in a cheeky manner. Once a girls starts to get a big annoyed her thoughts start to get dominated and her ego forces her to defeat you. This way she wouldn't be able to stop thinking about you.
Let her give it- Take this argument to a level where she starts to find it interesting and is looking for more and more. Make an early exit and let her know that you have other important things to do that just talk to her. Now this is the crucial part and this is where you need to work a bit as well. Some girls just wait for you to ask for their phone number therefore you should do this in a cheeky way as well. Before leaving say- I am not done yet but we can carry this on some other day. By the way do you have a phone? She might say yes.
This is a very basic question and will start to build a yes ladder. She will answer yes and you then hand her the pen and paper and tell her to write it down. You treat her yes as confirmation that she wants to give you her email. This is also an attraction test and the more she invests in you, the more she will be willing to invest in the future. As she is writing down her email address, you simply say, ""Write down your number too!".In the example above, you have broken down the giving of the number into two steps, which dramatically improves the chances. The strength of this method is that you are asking them to write their phone number down as they are writing down their email and, in doing so; you have built a very powerful compliance momentum.By asking for her email, you have given her a very small attraction test and if you have any value built at all, she will comply with you. It's very low risk and most people give out an email address without thinking about it. Asking for the phone number is much more personal, but by asking for it while they are writing down their email, your chances of success will skyrocket. Try it and you will realise how powerful this is!
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