Are You Suffering Through A Bad Marriage?

Publié par Unknown on samedi 15 mars 2014

By Herbert Zabala


If you or someone that you know has been through issues in their marriage, you know full well just how difficult things can get. For a lot of people dealing with relationship troubles with their spouse, it can take a whole lot out on you both emotionally and even physically with all of the stress that can take place.

This happens for a variety of reasons. Some people simply have their head in the sand and refuse to acknowledge how bad things really are, for example. Living in a state of denial is not as uncommon as you would think, either.

Spouses who grew up in a home with a bad marriage often assume that this is the same everywhere. They see their parents go through their marriage without love just for the kids. This usually does not help the children at all.

They go through life having a false assumption of what a happy family should look like. Then, when they get into a shaky marriage, they just go with it and live with it.

However, remember that you deserve to be happy. Reach out and get help as soon as possible. A counselor may be the answer that you are looking for. As a neutral party, he or she can help you and your spouse talk through your problems. They can also assist you as you seek solutions.

Some of the signs that you could be involved in a bad marriage could include everything from no intimacy or affection to little or no communication between partners. In more severe cases, you will often see a relationship where there is a lot of verbal and even physical abuse.

Keep in mind that it is not just your happiness that is at stake. Your health may be in jeopardy as well. Research indicates that people in bad marriages have higher stress levels and worse health. That often leads to things like heart problems, depression or even eating disorders. In addition, it may compromise your immune system.

The worst thing that you can do if there are any signs that you are in a bad marriage is falling into a state of denial. No matter how sacred you feel the bond of marriage is, you are not going to be doing either of you justice by trying to keep the pieces of your relationship from falling apart.

A lot of people have a fantasy view that if there is love, it will solve all problems. Yes, keeping a positive attitude is good, but someone still need to point out the reality and where the marriage is weak. Then, you are able to separate what is real and what is not real. Love can be an infatuation that does not last.

It may be hard to talk about your problems, but the only alternative is to suffer in silence. You can fix your marriage, but you have to be willing to work at it and to communicate openly and honestly with your partner.

You don't have to be embarrassed about your situation and not talk about it. When there is love, respect, and a commitment to seek solutions, a bad marriage can be saved. You have to first be honest with yourself and make a decision if the marriage is worth saving. This decision is up to you to make.




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