Parenting experts throughout the globe have consistently failed for many decades to help the world's parents totally eliminate their children's temper tantrums. One main reason for this is that parenting experts are mostly misguided and don't understand the real cause of temper tantrums. They think that the causes of tantrums are children's lack of problem solving skills, lack of alternate ways to express their emotion, lack of ability to verbally express themselves, low frustration tolerance, determination to have things their own way, and need for attention-all of which naturally leads to tantrum experimentation.
I have discovered myself that these things aren't the real causes of tantrums. But they are the actual causes of the initial anger that leads to the tantrums. Repeatedly, over a twenty-three-year period, I have shown that if children's initial anger invokes the kind of responses they need from parents, the anger quickly goes away and does not develop into tantrums. One actual cause of temper tantrums is parents not meeting the children's initial anger needs.
When children don't consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Otherwise, when children do consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to not escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Thus, temper tantrums are consistently prevented when it is demonstrated to children that the parents consistently understand their anger and will respond to it appropriately.
I acquired this understanding of appropriate anger responses through my personal experience. My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums, but my last eight children didn't. When I learned what to change in my anger responses when my fifth baby was fourteen months old, he stopped throwing tantrums within a week or so. I used my new techniques with my next eight children, from their births on, and not one of them ever threw a tantrum during their childhood years.
I call my techniques Infant Anger Management mostly because they are easily used to educate even newborn infants so as to never throw temper tantrums. If parents abandon the faulty ideas they've been fed about the causes of temper tantrums and then learn these functional techniques that can permanently eliminate and prevent them, temper tantrums disappear.
I have discovered myself that these things aren't the real causes of tantrums. But they are the actual causes of the initial anger that leads to the tantrums. Repeatedly, over a twenty-three-year period, I have shown that if children's initial anger invokes the kind of responses they need from parents, the anger quickly goes away and does not develop into tantrums. One actual cause of temper tantrums is parents not meeting the children's initial anger needs.
When children don't consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Otherwise, when children do consistently have their anger needs met, they are conditioned to trust in that likelihood, and they are predisposed to not escalate very quickly into temper tantrums. Thus, temper tantrums are consistently prevented when it is demonstrated to children that the parents consistently understand their anger and will respond to it appropriately.
I acquired this understanding of appropriate anger responses through my personal experience. My first five children, as babies, all threw temper tantrums, but my last eight children didn't. When I learned what to change in my anger responses when my fifth baby was fourteen months old, he stopped throwing tantrums within a week or so. I used my new techniques with my next eight children, from their births on, and not one of them ever threw a tantrum during their childhood years.
I call my techniques Infant Anger Management mostly because they are easily used to educate even newborn infants so as to never throw temper tantrums. If parents abandon the faulty ideas they've been fed about the causes of temper tantrums and then learn these functional techniques that can permanently eliminate and prevent them, temper tantrums disappear.
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