I:0:T How can I be so certain that you can raise your children free of temper tantrums when parenting experts advise for the most part that it's not possible? The first five children I had all threw tantrums when they were babies, but my last eight did not. When my fifth child was fourteen months, I learned what I needed to alter in my parenting style, and within a week or so he was forever free of tantrums.
With each of my last eight children I applied these same techniques, from the time they were born, on. None of them ever threw tantrums. But I'm not by any means one of very few parents who have consistently raised tantrum-free children. I have personally spoken to hundreds of them, and I would think there have been many millions worldwide, over time.
So if the parenting experts were correct in that ostensibly all children throw temper tantrums, then how would we account for all the parents who say their children have never thrown them? Can we assume these parents are lying about their experience? Or can we assume that the experts are wrong about tantrum inevitability? I believe the latter because I'm one of those parents claiming to have raised some tantrum-free children, and I'm certain that I'm not lying about it.
Parents of tantrum-free children probably don't usually know exactly what it is they've done differently from what parents of tantrum-throwers have. My guess is this is because they haven't had the kinds of failures I've had to compare with their successes. I'm guessing, in other words, that most parents who raise tantrum-free kids are successful at doing it with all of their kids from the very beginning of their parenting. Somehow they're able to get on the right track at the start of their parenting and don't get into following the standard, but faulty, tantrum advice. They don't have the before and after examples like I did so they can tell us what they were doing when they were failing and what they changed in order to succeed.
But even though these parents can't say exactly how they raised tantrum-free kids, they still support my theory. They still show that tantrum-free child rearing is quite possible for parents who somehow manage to come up with the right techniques. Anyone who has raised children free of tantrums is welcome to list those experiences on my Tantrum Free Club webpage so as to help me convince others of the possibilities. And anyone who hasn't raised tantrum-free kids is invited to vent a little and share the worst ever or most embarrassing temper tantrums of their children on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums webpage.
With each of my last eight children I applied these same techniques, from the time they were born, on. None of them ever threw tantrums. But I'm not by any means one of very few parents who have consistently raised tantrum-free children. I have personally spoken to hundreds of them, and I would think there have been many millions worldwide, over time.
So if the parenting experts were correct in that ostensibly all children throw temper tantrums, then how would we account for all the parents who say their children have never thrown them? Can we assume these parents are lying about their experience? Or can we assume that the experts are wrong about tantrum inevitability? I believe the latter because I'm one of those parents claiming to have raised some tantrum-free children, and I'm certain that I'm not lying about it.
Parents of tantrum-free children probably don't usually know exactly what it is they've done differently from what parents of tantrum-throwers have. My guess is this is because they haven't had the kinds of failures I've had to compare with their successes. I'm guessing, in other words, that most parents who raise tantrum-free kids are successful at doing it with all of their kids from the very beginning of their parenting. Somehow they're able to get on the right track at the start of their parenting and don't get into following the standard, but faulty, tantrum advice. They don't have the before and after examples like I did so they can tell us what they were doing when they were failing and what they changed in order to succeed.
But even though these parents can't say exactly how they raised tantrum-free kids, they still support my theory. They still show that tantrum-free child rearing is quite possible for parents who somehow manage to come up with the right techniques. Anyone who has raised children free of tantrums is welcome to list those experiences on my Tantrum Free Club webpage so as to help me convince others of the possibilities. And anyone who hasn't raised tantrum-free kids is invited to vent a little and share the worst ever or most embarrassing temper tantrums of their children on my Most Embarrassing Tantrums webpage.
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