Most parenting "experts," which means people who got that way from university attendance and not so much from having kids, inform us that babies less than six months or one year old aren't able to feel real anger. These "experts" view newborns as emotionally pre-functional. They say that babies, even when they sound angry, aren't. They're apparently just in primal communication mode, or something. I'm not sure what such parenting professionals think begins to happen to infants at the magical age of six months or one year allowing them to actually be angry when they sound angry. But I do know that I disagree with such a concept.
In the process of having and raising thirteen kids, I've discovered a few things about how infants function. I think newborns are real people who experience real emotions. I think they're entirely capable of feeling real anger from the moment they're born. If infants' needs aren't me, they experience very natural human anger. And that anger can and does sometimes escalate into temper tantrums. As well, infants are entirely capable of understanding their caregivers' responses to their anger, and they're easily able to understand whether or not they're getting what they need. If babies regularly don't have their anger needs met, they solidly come to trust that likelihood and become predisposed to escalate rapidly into temper tantrums. If they consistently do have their anger needs met, however, they come to trust that likelihood instead and become predisposed not to escalate into throwing temper tantrums.
Every one of my first five babies threw temper tantrums, but none of my last eight children did. The last eight didn't throw tantrums because I had learned with child number five what needed to be changed in my parenting style. He was fourteen months old when this happened and he was free of temper tantrums within one week of my starting the new techniques with him. These techniques are now part of what I call, "Infant Anger Management."
There's no scientific evidence to support the common theories that all children throw temper tantrums, or that tantrums are normal and natural in child development. There are so many theories about the causes of tantrums in children-including that brain chemicals are the cause! The most common theories, however, center around children's: inability to express themselves with words, low tolerance for frustration, lack of problem-solving skills, lack of ways to let out emotions, and need for attention. These things do not cause temper tantrums! They only cause pre-tantrum anger in the children. If parents know how to respond to pre-tantrum anger, it doesn't develop into tantrums. Children who are used to parents responding properly to their frustration angers tend to develop lots of patience and don't escalate to the point of tantrums.
Responding properly to infants' and children's pre-tantrum anger is the first step of "Infant Anger Management." I tell parents everything they need to understand in being able to totally prevent and totally eliminate temper tantrums in their children, even if they have ADHD, ADD, or ODD.
In the process of having and raising thirteen kids, I've discovered a few things about how infants function. I think newborns are real people who experience real emotions. I think they're entirely capable of feeling real anger from the moment they're born. If infants' needs aren't me, they experience very natural human anger. And that anger can and does sometimes escalate into temper tantrums. As well, infants are entirely capable of understanding their caregivers' responses to their anger, and they're easily able to understand whether or not they're getting what they need. If babies regularly don't have their anger needs met, they solidly come to trust that likelihood and become predisposed to escalate rapidly into temper tantrums. If they consistently do have their anger needs met, however, they come to trust that likelihood instead and become predisposed not to escalate into throwing temper tantrums.
Every one of my first five babies threw temper tantrums, but none of my last eight children did. The last eight didn't throw tantrums because I had learned with child number five what needed to be changed in my parenting style. He was fourteen months old when this happened and he was free of temper tantrums within one week of my starting the new techniques with him. These techniques are now part of what I call, "Infant Anger Management."
There's no scientific evidence to support the common theories that all children throw temper tantrums, or that tantrums are normal and natural in child development. There are so many theories about the causes of tantrums in children-including that brain chemicals are the cause! The most common theories, however, center around children's: inability to express themselves with words, low tolerance for frustration, lack of problem-solving skills, lack of ways to let out emotions, and need for attention. These things do not cause temper tantrums! They only cause pre-tantrum anger in the children. If parents know how to respond to pre-tantrum anger, it doesn't develop into tantrums. Children who are used to parents responding properly to their frustration angers tend to develop lots of patience and don't escalate to the point of tantrums.
Responding properly to infants' and children's pre-tantrum anger is the first step of "Infant Anger Management." I tell parents everything they need to understand in being able to totally prevent and totally eliminate temper tantrums in their children, even if they have ADHD, ADD, or ODD.
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